Reframing Imposter Syndrome
We’ve all experienced Imposter Syndrome. It’s the voice in our head telling us we don’t know what we’re doing, that we don’t belong, or that others are better than us. If we listen to it, we can let self-doubt take over and struggle to move forward when faced with a difficult task. Like, writing this blog right now. I have FEELINGS. How can I possibly make this a unique perspective, keep it professional AND provide actionable insights? Well, I can reframe my thoughts in a more productive way. I’m getting out of my comfort zone, and isn’t that the goal?
Recognize Your Value
You’re not brand new on this Earth; you know a lot. You probably know enough about real estate to be considered an expert. You know how to have a conversation with a client about your value proposition. So, why does someone who is so great still feel like an imposter that will be unmasked like a Scooby-Doo villain at any given moment?
Research shows that women, minorities and those with certain personality types (i.e., perfectionists, highly skilled people and/or experts) are disproportionately impacted by imposter syndrome. If you fall into one (or more!) of these categories, we have some tips to help tackle your inner-saboteur.
1. Give credit where credit is due
If you are your own boss, it can be hard to keep track of your accomplishments in the rush of getting it all done. Without a weekly 411 with a manager to track your work, some wins can be forgotten. Don’t let this happen! Create a note in your phone and keep a running list of wins so you can go back and read them when times are rough. When you get a nice review or a thank you note from a client, screenshot it and save it in an album on your phone for those days when you need a reminder of the value you bring. We all have bad days, but having a “smile file” can turn it right around. Plus, you can hold a 411 with yourself. Trust us, it helps.
2. Shift your thinking
When trying something new or tackling a difficult challenge, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we’re just not good enough. Instead of thinking what’s making you uncomfortable is because of something you lack, try instead to think of it as being uncomfortable because it is new. Think of yourself as a pioneer, forging new paths. If it helps, imagine you’re a literal turn-of-the-century explorer in uncharted territory. Pioneers and explorers are celebrated for their courage and bravery, so why shouldn’t you be as well? It takes strength to forgo a traditional paycheck and run your own business or grow your skillset to meet the demands of a challenging market. Look at you, blazing your own trail!
3. Ask for feedback
There is always room for improvement, but we won’t objectively know where we can improve without asking for feedback. This can look like asking clients for online reviews, or fellow agents for insight on your elevator pitch, even approaching the MREAs in your network for advice. The more you seek to improve, the more comfortable you will feel.
4. Accept the compliment!
Take a moment to pause and reflect on the last time you received a compliment. Maybe someone told you they appreciated your willingness to show them ONE more house, or they liked your outfit that day. Don’t deflect these kind words, accept them! Say thank you and add that compliment to your “smile file” for the next time you feel down about yourself. Work hard to internalize that feeling of self-worth. Now, go forth and believe in your inner pioneer!
Thank you for reading this far, my inner-saboteur didn’t win this time. I hit my goal of getting out of my comfort zone to write a professional blog and provide actionable insights, in my own unique way. Sticking this in my “smile file” for later.
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